Why I Won’t Write Toxic Gay Relationships

Hey Booklovers!

I get this question every now and then, either from readers or fellow writers:
“Would you ever write a story about a toxic gay relationship?”
And my answer is simple: No, I wouldn’t.

Not because I believe toxic relationships don’t exist. We all know they do—queer or not. But because I made a conscious choice as a gay author to write the kind of stories that bring hope, warmth, and love into the world.

I think, life is already complicated enough.
Because too many queer people grow up surrounded by shame, fear, rejection, and self-doubt.
And because when I was a teenager trying to figure out who I was, the only gay stories I saw ended in heartbreak, death, or trauma.

That’s not the legacy I want to leave behind.
I want my readers—whether they’re gay, bi, trans, questioning, or straight allies—to walk away from my books feeling good. Feeling hopeful. Feeling seen.

Do You Believe in Happy Endings in Real Life?

Absolutely. I still believe in the one true love. I believe that everyone—regardless of gender or identity—has a soulmate out there. Someone who just gets them.

It might sound cheesy, but after everything we’ve been through as a queer community, I think we’ve earned the right to indulge in a little romance, joy, and magic.

So yes, I write love stories with happy endings. Not because I want to ignore reality—but because I want to rewrite it. I want to offer a version of love that’s kind, affirming, and healing. We deserve that.

Why Is It Important to Write Positive Queer Representation?

As a gay person, creating queer characters isn’t just something I do for representation—it’s my whole world. These characters come from real emotions, real experiences, real scars—and real healing.

I lived through the ‘90s, when being called “gay” at school was a slur, not an identity. When media barely acknowledged we existed. Now, I have the chance to give today’s readers something I didn’t have: characters who get to fall in love, stay in love, and thrive.

Can Fiction Be a Safe Space for Queer Readers?

It absolutely can—and should.

Books were my refuge growing up. They were the one place I could disappear into and imagine a world where love wasn’t something to be afraid of. That’s the kind of safe space I want to offer with my own writing.

Because when a queer teen finishes one of my books, I don’t want them to feel broken.
I want them to feel whole.
I want them to believe that love is possible. That they’re worthy of it. And that they’re not alone.

Why I’ll Always Choose Love Over Drama

Some writers thrive on drama and emotional chaos in their storytelling—and that’s valid. But for me? I’ll always choose love.

Because I think the boldest, most radical thing I can do as a queer author in today’s world is write stories that say:
“You are enough. You are lovable. And you deserve a happy ending.”

So, no toxic relationships here. Just characters finding themselves—and finding love.

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Stay bookish and fabulous,

Felix